My little angel today

Ever have one of those days where your in total meltdown, you cry, get angry, just want to be in bed. Now imagine that times ten and that's the kind of time we have after school in our home with Alex when there is homework. It creates what I call the tornado effect. The whole house becomes a fury of chaos. Is there a way we can solve this issue? I don't know, I asked the ARC (autism Resource Center) if it was too much to ask for no homework in his IEP. They said that can be tricky but if there is mastery then there doesn't need to be homework.
So today was conference day.
I went over to the high school and the first teacher I saw was Alex's Algebra teacher, this is where he struggles the most. One thing about autistic children is that sometimes odd things set them off. For Alex, numbers and letters being in the same equation doesn't make sense. Doing homework with the same problems over and over is problematic for him. The bad part of math is that it is a certain requirement for graduation that must be mastered. "Mastered" what does that mean? He knows it, so why do all that homework?
Throughout the next hour I saw all of his teachers, mostly he is doing great with the exception of homework. Two of his teachers didn't even seem to know that he has Aspergers and gets modifications and resource room help. How does that happen? I felt like I was holding back tears the whole time as he is feeling so overwhelmed and my heart melts for him. I understand that the pace is much more grueling at the high school, but for a kid like Alex, we just want them to graduate without hating it so much they never want to do another bit of schoolwork again, or get out of bed, or move out and get a job.  Ok, that may be a bit overboard, but days when he has a day off I can hardly get him to do anything, that's certainly not what I want for his life. He is such a bright kid with a tender heart and I know he will do great things, we just have to get over the homework stumbling block!
When all was said and done he got glowing character reports from his teachers and I met with his case manager who is going to remind the teachers about his IEP and work to get homework lightened.
After Jan and I visited she introduced me to a teacher at the high school who also has an autistic son who is 15. We talked and talked, she was so compassionate and it seems Alex is not alone in his reaction to homework. Her son has had the same issues with teachers not knowing he has Aspergers and feeling like he is getting lost in the shuffle. She told me to email her any time with questions or concerns and that she is a parent who totally understands it all.   Thank you God for her, my little angel in the day today!